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is this human choice	alan	Tuesday, September 16, 2008
Question: hi i wrote to you some months back re wicca and your reply was and is helpful thank you there is something that i am trying to come to terms with and would be greatful of your viewpoint becuase your forum is so level headed in my view i was raised in the baptist church my father was a baptist minister and also he was a very disturbed veteran of the korean war and our family life was difficult. permit me to explain my father was a emotionally violent man he often threatened to break my neck, i spent from the ages of 12 to 15 sleeping with a shotgun handy as i thought that he would carry out his threat. then of course we would go to church and the image or sound of him preaching would disturb me......i.e he discribed himself as arrogant as if that was a virtue as you can imagine i turned away from the church for many years it was damaging at the time my memeorys at the age of 33 i was baptised in the anglican church..(.im from the uk.)....and have tried to put these issues behind me so i ask you ...if forgiveness is a action what does it involve ?and not involve??i.e does it mean we forget ?? and say do it again tommorow etc ? b....is it possible that abuse like this in a pastors home could have been...because of the negative spritual activity latching on? i ask you because i looked about last sunday after church seeing my children play happly( including my daughter whos mother is a wiccan ) and i am detirmined that these negative experiences will not influecne my children in there church upbringing please be assued of my churches continueing prayers for you work al
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM Dear Alan: Thank you for your kind words and prayers. The act of forgiveness is misunderstood perhaps by most people. Forgiveness does not mean a literal forgetting. In the English phrase, "Forgive and Forget", forget means "to let go." We need to let go of the hurt and let God take care of our abuser and then get on with our life. Forgiving does not mean we must be buddies with the abuser, it does not mean we allow the person to abuse us again, it does not mean we must have dinner with them, it does not mean we must like them. Forgiving means that you put the hurt behind you and get on with your life. Forgiving means that you allow God to deal with the abusers. This is an issue we deal with in our counseling process. This link is the packet on the issue of unforgiveness and bitterness that we give to clients. I suggest that you read this packet and offer prayers of forgiveness for all who have hurt you. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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alan

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

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hi
i wrote to you some months back re wicca and your reply was and is helpful thank you

there is something that i am trying to come to terms with and would be greatful of your viewpoint becuase your forum is so level headed in my view

i was raised in the baptist church my father was a baptist minister and also he was a very disturbed veteran of the korean war and our family life was difficult. permit me to explain

my father was a emotionally violent man he often threatened to break my neck, i spent from the ages of 12 to 15 sleeping with a shotgun handy as i thought that he would carry out his threat.
then of course we would go to church and the image or sound of him preaching would disturb me......i.e he discribed himself as arrogant as if that was a virtue

as you can imagine i turned away from the church for many years it was damaging at the time my memeorys

at the age of 33 i was baptised in the anglican church..(.im from the uk.)....and have tried to put these issues behind me

so i ask you

...if forgiveness is a action what does it involve ?and not involve??i.e does it mean we forget ?? and say do it again tommorow etc ?
b....is it possible that abuse like this in a pastors home could have been...because of the negative spritual activity latching on?

i ask you because i looked about last sunday after church seeing my children play happly( including my daughter whos mother is a wiccan )

and i am detirmined that these negative experiences will not influecne my children in there church upbringing

please be assued of my churches continueing prayers for you work

al

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM

Dear Alan:

Thank you for your kind words and prayers.

The act of forgiveness is misunderstood perhaps by most people. Forgiveness does not mean a literal forgetting. In the English phrase, "Forgive and Forget", forget means "to let go." We need to let go of the hurt and let God take care of our abuser and then get on with our life.

Forgiving does not mean we must be buddies with the abuser, it does not mean we allow the person to abuse us again, it does not mean we must have dinner with them, it does not mean we must like them.

Forgiving means that you put the hurt behind you and get on with your life. Forgiving means that you allow God to deal with the abusers.

This is an issue we deal with in our counseling process. This link is the packet on the issue of unforgiveness and bitterness that we give to clients. I suggest that you read this packet and offer prayers of forgiveness for all who have hurt you.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.