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victim of my mother's sin	mike	Monday, August 12, 2013
Question: Dear Brother Ignatius Mary. As a child my parents (married) assisted to church of christ, meantime both of them were cheatin on each other. my dad with another woman and my mom was practicing lesbianism my dad use to hurt my brothers and I physically and my mom use to hurst us mentally. however my mom still enforce us to assist church, really ironic. Eventually they divorced. we lived with my mom, and we still would assist to church, however in the meantime my mom was still sleeping with another woman occasionally, but she did sleep with other men as well. She met this exconvict (with her knowledge) and married him. Unfortunately, he abused me when i was 11 years old until my mom find out and eventually he went to prison again. consequently, over the years I became having psychological problems, anxiaty, depression, anti social, even suicide. when I was 20 years old my mom and other sisters had an affair wiht our pastor . Everybody find out and they fire him. Now in the present time, my mom hangs around with this sister at church and sometime they stare at each other weird, they talk on the phone everysingle day, and when they are sitting together occasionally they hold hands outside the church. I wont be surprice if she still is practicing those sins. God may judge her, not me. i have confronted her if she had practiced lesbianism, but denied. She taught me to watch pornography when i was 14yrs old afraid i might become gay. Eventually I'm addicted to pornography, i have thoughts of suicide, anxiaty, even thoughts to kill people, i have heard satans voice to worsip him. I do my best to keep a genuin relationship with Jesus Christ, i have my church elders to pray for me, but still the same thing. Here is my question: i want to move away from my house, Away from things that remind me of my past, where i wont live a fake christian . would that help me? or what can i do? Thank you for taking your time reading my story. God Bless You.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), CCL, LTh, DD, LNDC Dear Mike: I am so sorry you have experienced such abuse. Yes, in many cases it becomes critical for a person to move away from a toxic environment. Healing can only take place after leaving such an environment. Given the circumstances you describe, moving away, even far away, can be an option to help you heal and to develop your Christianity. Remember, God is always with you. He will never abandon you. God also promises that "all things will work together for good to those who love God" (Rom 8:28) What that means is that despite the rotten lemons that have been thrown into your life, God can take those lemons and make sweet lemonade. Once you get out of the toxic situation, God can, in time, bring sweet lemonade to your life. Remember to pray for your parents. Jesus says we are to bless those who abuse us. In blessing those who abuse us, we are blessed. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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victim of my mother's sin

mike

Monday, August 12, 2013

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Dear Brother Ignatius Mary.

As a child my parents (married) assisted to church of christ, meantime both of them were cheatin on each other. my dad with another woman and my mom was practicing lesbianism

my dad use to hurt my brothers and I physically and my mom use to hurst us mentally. however my mom still enforce us to assist church, really ironic. Eventually they divorced. we lived with my mom, and we still would assist to church, however in the meantime my mom was still sleeping with another woman occasionally, but she did sleep with other men as well.

She met this exconvict (with her knowledge) and married him.

Unfortunately, he abused me when i was 11 years old until my mom find out and eventually he went to prison again. consequently, over the years I became having psychological problems, anxiaty, depression, anti social, even suicide. when I was 20 years old my mom and other sisters had an affair wiht our pastor . Everybody find out and they fire him. Now in the present time, my mom hangs around with this sister at church and sometime they stare at each other weird, they talk on the phone everysingle day, and when they are sitting together occasionally they hold hands outside the church. I wont be surprice if she still is practicing those sins. God may judge her, not me. i have confronted her if she had practiced lesbianism, but denied.

She taught me to watch pornography when i was 14yrs old afraid i might become gay. Eventually I'm addicted to pornography, i have thoughts of suicide, anxiaty, even thoughts to kill people, i have heard satans voice to worsip him. I do my best to keep a genuin relationship with Jesus Christ, i have my church elders to pray for me, but still the same thing.

Here is my question: i want to move away from my house, Away from things that remind me of my past, where i wont live a fake christian . would that help me? or what can i do?

Thank you for taking your time reading my story.

God Bless You.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), CCL, LTh, DD, LNDC

Dear Mike:

I am so sorry you have experienced such abuse. Yes, in many cases it becomes critical for a person to move away from a toxic environment. Healing can only take place after leaving such an environment.

Given the circumstances you describe, moving away, even far away, can be an option to help you heal and to develop your Christianity.

Remember, God is always with you. He will never abandon you. God also promises that "all things will work together for good to those who love God" (Rom 8:28)

What that means is that despite the rotten lemons that have been thrown into your life, God can take those lemons and make sweet lemonade. Once you get out of the toxic situation, God can, in time, bring sweet lemonade to your life.

Remember to pray for your parents. Jesus says we are to bless those who abuse us. In blessing those who abuse us, we are blessed.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.