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Possible Spiritual and Emotional Problems | Crystal | Monday, October 24, 2011 |
Question: Dear Brother, |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r)
Dear Crystal: You have many issues here that really need the assistance of a psychologist or counselor. For example, on the distrust of men, while it is understandable, even though that were not all bad. From what you have described I would suggest that a fundamental source of your problems is the issue of forgiveness. Those who do not forgive, but hold grudges, bitterness, and resentment, can actually develop physical problems in addition to psychological issues. Certainly there will be spiritual problems. As Christians we are required to forgive all who hurt us. Jesus said that if we do not forgive other then He will not forgive us:
It is imperative that we forgive others and forgive ourselves. To not forgive is to risk our soul. The question arises, however, exactly how are we to do that? After we forgive someone especially if they've hurt us very badly? People find it hard to forgive because they have misinformation about the meaning of forgiveness. Forgiveness is not an emotion, it is a decision of will. It doesn't matter how we feel about the person, we can make a deliberate decision the will to forgive them. Forgiveness does not mean forgetting. At the time that that cliché was invented the term, "forget", meant to "let go". Thus, the more accurate phrase is not, "forgive and forget", but rather, "forgive and let go." We need to let go of the past, and let go of the people who have hurt us, and get on with our lives. As long as we hang on to the bitterness and resentments we will continue to be hurt even if person who hurt us as been dead for 25 years. In reality is we ourselves who hold ourselves in bondage to that person who has hurt us. If one sees their abuser walking down the street we can cross the street to the other side to avoid him yet still forgive him. To forgive someone does not mean that we have to be friends with them. It is not mean that we have to have dinner with them. We can dislike the person and still forgive them. This is a topic that we deal with almost every day with our clients. We have a pamphlet that describes what forgiveness is and what forgiveness is not to help you to understand that forgiveness is not quite as hard as you might imagine. The name of the pamphlet is Dealing with Bitterness and Unforgiveness (pdf file). I would also recommend the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance linked below. Since you have listened yourself as a non-denominational Christian if you are uncomfortable with some of the prayers in the Seven Steps that include traditional Catholic language you can reword those prayers. Our agency does not provide psychological counseling. We specialize in spiritual counseling, spiritual direction, and it needed, deliverance. If you need help going through the Seven Steps we can provide you with personal consultation and spiritual counseling. In the trials and tribulations of our lives we need to remember the promises of God. God is not a liar, he keeps his promises. Some of those promises are:
Read these promises carefully and often. Offer these verses as a prayer. Take comfort that God loves you and will never leave you. Trust in Him, and Be Not Afraid. God Bless,
For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.
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