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Followed your advice of deliverance	Elizabeth	Friday, July 9, 2010
Question: Dear Brother Ignatius, Hope all is well with you! Your council from last year (June 5th, 2009 post) has brought my husband and I so much peace. We cut ties with family and continued with monthly confessions, daily Mass when possible, and pray a daily rosary and deliverance prayers. I do have a question for you again. The problems existed with my mother in law cursing our marriage and my husbands brothers believing the false witness (lies and highly manipulative) and they started cursing us. With the help of a priest doing a deliverance prayer over each of us, your council and prayers, and an exorcist who is in a hermitage order told us that they were adopting my husband and I as family and praying for us. God is so good! Well, the family is now contacting us again and insisting we come to a family reunion/85th birthday for their mother. Which they happen to locate in San Antonio which is a 90 minute drive from us. No one else lives close to San Antonio they will be flying in. This event is taking place over Thanksgiving and going on for 4 days. My husband and I have forgiven them but we do not have peace when we have prayed about going, nor do we feel safe. We responded that we "would not" be attending. They are not taking no for an answer and now are saying, we planned this event in San Antonio for you and your families convenience and that we need to leave the past behind and move forward positively and meaningful. His brother also had subtle threats in his letter to us with warnings. We pray for my husbands mother and family but there are no changes and no one has reconciled with us. We have asked those brothers who keep confronting us to have their mother contact us so that we can keep our privacy with her and our own family and they so no. We have even asked her to contact us and she won't. Yet they are insisting she wants to see my husband. Which is frightening because this all started the day after I had a deliverance prayer prayed over me 2 years ago. Before that no one had contacted us for 7 years. After living through diobolical manifestations, oppression, and very frightening happenings we feel free and grateful to God for delivering us. So you can imagine our reluctance to become involved. Brother Ignatius, please pray for us and our protection and any advice would be welcome. For we both want to be pleasing to God. Every day I am grateful to God you have been there, thank you and God bless you abundantly.
Question Answered by Dear Elizabeth: We will certainly pray for your and your family, and the the in-laws. One can forgive someone and still not like them. One can forgive someone and refuse to ever see them again. One can forgive someone and when seeing them walking down the sidewalk cross the street to avoid them. We are to forgive, but we are not obligated to be a doormat, to be abused, to be threatened, to be manipulated, or to be treated with any other kind of disrespect. There are times when even relatives must be "divorced", that is, all contact with them ceased for the good of your own immediate family. Do not let them manipulate you into agreeing to meet with them with this canard of the reason they decided to hold the event in San Antonio. That was their decision, not yours. 1 Corinthians 13 says that love does not demand its own way. If these relatives will not take no for an answer they do not love you. As such, you may have to get firm and tell them your answer is no and you will hear no more about it. If they will not stop calling on the phone after you tell them to not call back, then file charges of harassment, or if necessary, change your phone number and make it unlisted. If they show up on your doorstep, tell them to leave and not come back. If they don't leave then call the police and have them escorted off your property. If they still come back, petition for a restraining order. I am not kidding about this. Just because they are family does not give them a right of access to you or your husband or to treat you badly. If they will not respect you, then wash your hands of them. You may have to get very tough, but certainly continue to pray for them and to bless them. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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Followed your advice of deliverance

Elizabeth

Friday, July 9, 2010

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Dear Brother Ignatius,

Hope all is well with you! Your council from last year (June 5th, 2009 post) has brought my husband and I so much peace. We cut ties with family and continued with monthly confessions, daily Mass when possible, and pray a daily rosary and deliverance prayers.

I do have a question for you again. The problems existed with my mother in law cursing our marriage and my husbands brothers believing the false witness (lies and highly manipulative) and they started cursing us. With the help of a priest doing a deliverance prayer over each of us, your council and prayers, and an exorcist who is in a hermitage order told us that they were adopting my husband and I as family and praying for us. God is so good!

Well, the family is now contacting us again and insisting we come to a family reunion/85th birthday for their mother. Which they happen to locate in San Antonio which is a 90 minute drive from us. No one else lives close to San Antonio they will be flying in. This event is taking place over Thanksgiving and going on for 4 days. My husband and I have forgiven them but we do not have peace when we have prayed about going, nor do we feel safe. We responded that we "would not" be attending. They are not taking no for an answer and now are saying, we planned this event in San Antonio for you and your families convenience and that we need to leave the past behind and move forward positively and meaningful. His brother also had subtle threats in his letter to us with warnings.

We pray for my husbands mother and family but there are no changes and no one has reconciled with us. We have asked those brothers who keep confronting us to have their mother contact us so that we can keep our privacy with her and our own family and they so no. We have even asked her to contact us and she won't. Yet they are insisting she wants to see my husband. Which is frightening because this all started the day after I had a deliverance prayer prayed over me 2 years ago. Before that no one had contacted us for 7 years.

After living through diobolical manifestations, oppression, and very frightening happenings we feel free and grateful to God for delivering us. So you can imagine our reluctance to become involved.

Brother Ignatius, please pray for us and our protection and any advice would be welcome. For we both want to be pleasing to God. Every day I am grateful to God you have been there, thank you and God bless you abundantly.

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Dear Elizabeth:

We will certainly pray for your and your family, and the the in-laws.

One can forgive someone and still not like them. One can forgive someone and refuse to ever see them again. One can forgive someone and when seeing them walking down the sidewalk cross the street to avoid them.

We are to forgive, but we are not obligated to be a doormat, to be abused, to be threatened, to be manipulated, or to be treated with any other kind of disrespect.

There are times when even relatives must be "divorced", that is, all contact with them ceased for the good of your own immediate family.

Do not let them manipulate you into agreeing to meet with them with this canard of the reason they decided to hold the event in San Antonio. That was their decision, not yours.

1 Corinthians 13 says that love does not demand its own way. If these relatives will not take no for an answer they do not love you.

As such, you may have to get firm and tell them your answer is no and you will hear no more about it. If they will not stop calling on the phone after you tell them to not call back, then file charges of harassment, or if necessary, change your phone number and make it unlisted. If they show up on your doorstep, tell them to leave and not come back. If they don't leave then call the police and have them escorted off your property. If they still come back, petition for a restraining order.

I am not kidding about this. Just because they are family does not give them a right of access to you or your husband or to treat you badly. If they will not respect you, then wash your hands of them.

You may have to get very tough, but certainly continue to pray for them and to bless them.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.