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My Obsession is my Neighbor.....want to bless her.....	Mary Elizabeth	Friday, September 11, 2009
Question: Hi, Thanks again for helping so much. I have been reading intently the prayers you suggested....excellent. I have been on my knees praising the Lord for his Goodness by working through you and your ministry. I need to ask for help with one more thing. With my severe OCD, My brain can "cling On" to anything. I have severe anxiety all the time with OCD on top of it. For the last 25 years I have been obsessed with different significant woman in my life....My Mom, My twin, any Woman boss , and now my neighbor ...Beth. In therapy I am trying to figure out why all these woman have triggered me.. I know I have always wanted approval from them and acceptance........love. I have been rejected alot in my life and the obessions of wanting acceptance has always made me really sick. It is part OCD and part I do not know Who I am, and what I deserve from others. I know i am a loving kind spirit, but when someone rejects me.I fall apart and obsess about them. Can you pray right now for my neighbor Beth? I am under a Doctors care for this. I have even been in the Hospital because of this Monster OCD. I must function now, get a job and move on...........I am on meds and pray constantly. I am stuck in my brain on the Neighbor Beth. She is gorgeous, blonde, Harvard MBA, and is so rude, puts me down , snots me off, won't smile or recognize me. I am obsessed about wanting her....not in a sexual way, I am not gay. I just want her to be warm and friendly to me, she is not . She just will stare at me with an empty look on her face, no warmth , no love , no friendliness..puts her head up in air and snobs me off. I have tried many times to communicate to her but she puts me down and I know she thinks she is just better then me......because of her job, looks. education, she freaks me out, so snobby. How do I bless her, forgive her, not get so upset because I think with this OCD that I need her approval and acceptance because she looks like what the world likes......beautiful and smart. I am not as pretty and my brain thinks I should be accepted and treated warmly by her...that her prettiness should accept me..I obsess about her.....How do I not believe the lies in my head that I need a pretty worldly looking girl to love me or want to accept me. I know I sound nuts but I want to let her go and I have tried everything ...my heart is in the wrong place and I am lusting for her and I am not gay... How can Jesus help me ...I pray all the time, I constantly ask Jesus to take this from me and he won't...What am i doing wrong? Why won't Jesus relieve me of this? I have asked him to put the right and good thoughts in my head about her so i can release this obsession and hopefully not cling on to any thing else but Jesus. These thoughts can debilitate me, and i can't get out of bed, I want to think what Jesus would think, I am stuck in this battle, Help me....with Hope and Love.....Mary Elizabeth USA. God Bless you.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM Dear Mary Elizabeth: Your situation is way over our head. The problem is the OCD. You need to continue to see your doctor and follow the doctor's advise and take whatever medication prescribed. You also need to immediately separate yourself from this neighbor. It is obvious from your narrative that this neighbor does not wish to be your friend. You need to be an adult and accept that. Do not bother her, talk to her, or even stare out the window at her. It is next to impossible to resolve an obsession unless you remove yourself from proximity of the person you are obsessed with. In my opinion that is the first step. And then deal with the thinking errors (such as you need her approval) and the OCD with your therapist. Continue to pray the prayers suggested and offer up your suffering to God. We will pray for you. We will also pray for your neighbor, too, but it is you are is in real need here. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.

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Hi, Thanks again for helping so much. I have been reading intently the prayers you suggested....excellent. I have been on my knees praising the Lord for his Goodness by working through you and your ministry.

I need to ask for help with one more thing. With my severe OCD, My brain can "cling On" to anything. I have severe anxiety all the time with OCD on top of it. For the last 25 years I have been obsessed with different significant woman in my life....My Mom, My twin, any Woman boss , and now my neighbor ...Beth. In therapy I am trying to figure out why all these woman have triggered me.. I know I have always wanted approval from them and acceptance........love. I have been rejected alot in my life and the obessions of wanting acceptance has always made me really sick. It is part OCD and part I do not know Who I am, and what I deserve from others. I know i am a loving kind spirit, but when someone rejects me.I fall apart and obsess about them. Can you pray right now for my neighbor Beth?

I am under a Doctors care for this. I have even been in the Hospital because of this Monster OCD. I must function now, get a job and move on...........I am on meds and pray constantly. I am stuck in my brain on the Neighbor Beth. She is gorgeous, blonde, Harvard MBA, and is so rude, puts me down , snots me off, won't smile or recognize me. I am obsessed about wanting her....not in a sexual way, I am not gay. I just want her to be warm and friendly to me, she is not . She just will stare at me with an empty look on her face, no warmth , no love , no friendliness..puts her head up in air and snobs me off.

I have tried many times to communicate to her but she puts me down and I know she thinks she is just better then me......because of her job, looks. education, she freaks me out, so snobby.

How do I bless her, forgive her, not get so upset because I think with this OCD that I need her approval and acceptance because she looks like what the world likes......beautiful and smart. I am not as pretty and my brain thinks I should be accepted and treated warmly by her...that her prettiness should accept me..I obsess about her.....How do I not believe the lies in my head that I need a pretty worldly looking girl to love me or want to accept me. I know I sound nuts but I want to let her go and I have tried everything ...my heart is in the wrong place and I am lusting for her and I am not gay... How can Jesus help me ...I pray all the time, I constantly ask Jesus to take this from me and he won't...What am i doing wrong? Why won't Jesus relieve me of this? I have asked him to put the right and good thoughts in my head about her so i can release this obsession and hopefully not cling on to any thing else but Jesus. These thoughts can debilitate me, and i can't get out of bed, I want to think what Jesus would think, I am stuck in this battle, Help me....with Hope and Love.....Mary Elizabeth USA. God Bless you.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM

Dear Mary Elizabeth:

Your situation is way over our head. The problem is the OCD. You need to continue to see your doctor and follow the doctor's advise and take whatever medication prescribed.

You also need to immediately separate yourself from this neighbor. It is obvious from your narrative that this neighbor does not wish to be your friend. You need to be an adult and accept that. Do not bother her, talk to her, or even stare out the window at her.

It is next to impossible to resolve an obsession unless you remove yourself from proximity of the person you are obsessed with. In my opinion that is the first step. And then deal with the thinking errors (such as you need her approval) and the OCD with your therapist.

Continue to pray the prayers suggested and offer up your suffering to God.

We will pray for you. We will also pray for your neighbor, too, but it is you are is in real need here.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

For information on how to receive help see our Help page. We suggest that before contacting us directly for help you try the Seven Steps to Self-Deliverance. These self-help steps will often resolve the problem. Also our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog contains many prayers that may be helpful. If needed you can ask for a Personal Consultation.