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People using scriptures to suit their own ends | Claire | Wednesday, June 10, 2009 |
Question: I have been speaking with a person I met at church. This man started out simply trying to get me to come to his church but after just a few weeks during which he calls me daily and repeatedly, he now says he knows I am the one for him and we should get married. He is a nice person but I hardly know him, do not feel he is the one for me, is not what I am looking for and I did not go to his church seeking a husband. Most importantly, I feel he may be trying to pervert the scripture to get me to date/marry him and that makes me angry. He is also what I'd call unsuitable in a variety of ways (age, background, etc.) but bottomline I just don't have feelings for him. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM
Dear Claire: God does not tell a man that some woman is the "right one" without telling the woman (and vice versa). There is nothing for you to feel guilty about. If you do not feel the same way, then you do not feel the same way. God does not force anyone to do anything. This man is trying to force you into a relationship by manipulation using God for his weapon, which frankly is evil. In fact, from your description of his behavior, you are in danger of being stocked. He appears to have that sort of personality, as well as a personality of manipulation and control. This is disaster waiting to happen. I would predict that if you were to start a relationship with this man you would eventually be date raped or otherwise physically abused. I advise that you RUN, not walk, away from this person. Tell him to never contact you again for any reason and to ignore you if you happen to meet on the street or somewhere. If he refuses to stop, then contact the police. If necessary seek a restraining order. This guy is bad news. By the way, the apparently ultra-religious who exhibit this kind of control and manipulation have a high incidence of domestic violence from my experience. Run away from him. God Bless,
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