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Advice for my Sister re Her Husband's request for an annulment | Fawn | Wednesday, April 23, 2008 |
Question: My sister and her husband were married for 11 years before they tried to start having children. Two years and one miscarriage later, they finally conceived and my sister was 6 months pregnant when her husband left her for a woman with whom he was having an affair. My brother in law had converted to Catholocism during their marriage. My sister has custody of my niece, who has every other weekend stays with her father. My sister believes that she is still married. She still wears her wedding ring, she kept and uses her married name and refuses to seek out or accept offers of companionship. Her faith is her rock - but I feel that she also uses it as a shield from dealing with the tragic turns that her life has taken. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM
Dear Fawn: From what you are saying it sounds like your sister may have an inordinate attachment to the idea of being married. Sometimes marriages are not marriages sacramentally. We have to accept that and move on. Your sister needs to understand the meaning of a sacramental marriage and realize that if God, speaking through the Marriage Tribunal, says that her marriage was not sacramental, then it was not sacramental. Who can judge this? Her or God? To hang on to what God, through the Church, has determined does not exist is pride on your sister's part. She needs to mortify her pride. There is no reason for her faith to be shaken. Her faith should be intact because if she does have faith she will trust that God knows better than she. The annulment will be granted only if evidence shows that her marriage was not sacramental and only if God says so. Trust in God. If the Church determines that her marriage was not sacramental, then she is in single status. What she does with that is her business (as to seeking a new husband). But it does mean that she was never married in the eyes of God. This fact DOES NOT make the children illegitimate (that is an issue for civil law, not Church law). The marriage was legal in state law thus the children are legitimate. If the annulment is granted she needs to move on. God Bless,
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