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| ***** Premature ejaculation WARNING!! This question and answer is of a mature nature. Parental discretion is advised. |
Scott | Saturday, April 12, 2008 |
Question: Hi Brother, (Sorry if this may be explicit, I have no way of explaining myself otherwise.) I have noticed that mature adults have posted here in the past about human sexuality and have received answers with resect and were not be made to feel that their question was inappropriate. Thank you for providing this service. My wife and I were intimate the other night. It had been a while and I was very sensitive to any arousal. During foreplay I had my penis just on the inside of her vagina. All of a sudden I got close to the brink of climax so I tried to pull back to delay orgasm. Well, on the way out, it put me over the brink and I ejaculated outside. Big disapointment for both of us. Should I have tried to re-insert my penis back into her as the premature ejaculation happened? My penis was right on the outside of her, still touching her as I ejaculated. She was not yet ready for penetration, as we were still in the foreplay mode. Total Re-insertion would have been impossible as she was not properly aroused. As the pre-mature ejaculation was happening, I thought that why should I reinsert if we never really got to have sex properly. Did I commit a sin in thinking this? Did I sin by not reinserting best I could without hurting her? It all happened so fast. I am hurting over this. I feel like I have contracepted, even though before the act started we had intentions to "complete" the act fully and properly like we have in the past. If all things went well, I know I would have ejaculated in her properly. Should I go to confession over this matter? |
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| Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM
***** Dear Scott: From what you are describing your intention was not to contracept. Your intention was to prolong the time till your orgasm in which you fully intended to do vaginally. Thus, no grave sin was committed here. Your thinking is flawed in my opinion, however, about why re-insert when you did not have sex properly. The openness to life is not dependent upon having sex "properly". Each act of sex is to be open to life whether or not the sex is good, bad, selfish, disappointing, earth-shattering, or boring. Thus, thinking that there was no point to re-insert because there was no chance to properly make-love first is flawed. However, your intention was not to contracept, and this was an accident, as-it-were, thus I do not believe any grave sin was committed. At worse I think that "maybe" a venial sin was committed in not completing the act vaginally when you could, if you could, since it sounds like you made that decision based upon flawed but unintentional reasoning. Venial sin can be forgiven by asking God for forgiveness and do some act of charity or receive the Eucharist in daily Mass perhaps. If you feel you need to double-check to be sure, discuss this with your confessor and follow his advice. God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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