Dear Lynn:

I am sorry to hear about your situation. We will certainly be in prayer for you and your husband.

As to the use of "educational" tapes, to use sexually explicit sex education tapes is morally wrong. I have seen these sorts of tapes when I was in school for psychology. They are nothing more than pornography under the guise of "education." There is no legitimate reason for a couple to "need" to place such sexually explicit images into their minds. To do so rapes the imagination and causes even more problems.

The same is true for "education" on love-making. If a man or woman needs to be educated on love-making techniques to see movies of this is NOT the answer and again, will only cause more problems.

No, you ought not to do that.

What you need to do is seek marriage counseling.  Counseling should help you and your husband to learn how to communicate one's desires and needs to each other. If your husband needs to learn about better love-making techniques that can be discussed verbally, but watching movies or looking at pictures on it is not the answer and is destructive.

I know that many psychologists and counselors seem to think that pornography can be used for therapeutic reasons, but they are wrong. God knows more about psychology than they do and God does not approve of such things.

Thus, you need to find a counselor who doesn't propose immoral things.

But all this is the cart before the horse. Until such time as you find out why your husband has lost his sexual interest and resolve those issues, the rest will not matter. The focus of counseling at this point for your husband is to deal with the loss of his sexual interest.

Try to find a good Christian marriage counselor. If you cannot find one I know of someone who may be able to counsel you over the phone.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary