Dear Jane:

I am sorry to hear about your daughter. We will certainly be in prayer for her to return to God.

As for your daughter getting mad because you would not let her and her "girlfriend" share a bed, that is tough. You are absolutely within your rights to refuse to allow your daughter or anyone in your home indulge in sin and perversion. Even if the "couple" promised not to "do anything" it is still proper to not allow them to share a bed. St. Paul condemns the "appearance of evil" just as much as the evil itself.

You were Christian in this. In fact, doing what you did is your Christian responsibility. The Catechism says that if we see sin and are in a position to do something about it or say something about and don't, then we are an accomplice to that other person's sin. You were in position to say and do something about this one and you properly did.

More than that, it was your parental responsibility to teach your daughter the Truth and to call her to account for it and insist that she accept the responsibility for her own actions if she does not want to follow the Truth. You did well.

I know it is tough, but you did the right thing. You must love your daughter, but must not indulge her sin. You need to support your daughter generally, but not support this sin even if it means she pulls away from you. She will know that you love her, and she will know that you do not approve of her choices because they offend God. It is possible to have a relationship with her even though you will not accept her lifestyle choices. While she may not believe that you can be sure to keep the door open.

God bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary