Dear Shelby:

I am so sorry to hear that your trust was violated by this priest. I will certainly be in prayer for this man, and for you. I know that violations of trust hurt a lot.

I do encourage you to remember that this was merely one priest. The vast majority of spiritual directors (priest or lay) do not violate the trust of their directees. I know it can be hard, especially with trust issues, but you can trust most priests and spiritual directors.

There is no canon law that I am aware of at the moment concerning spiritual directors, per se. But, there is no question that this priest violated professional ethics.

Canon law does speak to the problem of a priest violating the seal of the confessional. This is an extremely serious sin. In fact, the Church considers breaking the confessional seal so serious that any priest that does this is automatically excommunicated. No trial is needed, the excommunication is automatic. Other penalties will likely be imposed such as suspension or even laicization (defrocking).

Unless your conversation with your priestly spiritual director was in the context of a Confession, this canon law does not apply.

Nevertheless, you have a case for a formal complaint with the bishop, if indeed the priest violated your confidentiality. I would advise asking this priest about this and see what he says. If need be, write a letter to the bishop, but be sure of the facts and provide evidence if possible.

I hope that you may overcome the fear to trust a priest or any other spiritual directors. Most respect the confidentiality of their directees. Pray for this priest.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary