Dear Derrick:

Well, especially if this is an actual "youth" group of teenagers, she needs to move on; she is not a teenager anymore. If that is the case we have a maturity problem.

If this group is a group for people in their 20's then I suppose it is okay, though the activities you describe sound a little juvenile to me -- but then I am an old man, everything sounds juvenile to me :)

As for spending all her time at Church and not spending time with you, this can be a legitimate complaint on your part.

There is a principle in scripture that does not directly apply here, but it provides a biblical principle that does:

(1 Tim 5:8) But if any provide not for his own, and especially for those of his own house, he hath denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.

The principle is that it is possible to be so involved in "church" that we neglect our loved ones. St. Paul uses this principle when speaking about full-time ministers of the Church:

When I was a Baptist preacher my then wife complained when I came home really late. She was right. I needed to pay more attention to her needs. The problem is the needs of ministry tend to conflict with the needs of family. This is the reason why the Church has decide to require celibate priests.

I know a person who spent so much time in prayer and church-work that you'd think he was a full-time monk. The trouble was that he was not a monk, he was a husband with four kids. Although there was fault to go around, of course, he ended up divorced with his wife saying that she did not want to be married to a "St. Francis." She is right on that point at least. She had the right to expect her husband to take care of the emotional of the family and not just the financial or even the spiritual.

Thus, it is actually possible to sin by doing church work, church activities, good works, and charity IF that activity neglects the loved ones.

You are not wrong for feeling this way, unless you are demanding ALL her time. For a relationship to work there must be some mutual understanding and compromise. For a relationship to be healthy time MUST be set aside for the relationship. Thus, it is reasonable for you to talk to her, in a non-demanding way, about your feelings and to work out a compromise so that you two can spend time together and she can still do some church activities.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary