Dear Mary:

I am sorry to hear about the problems with your daughter. You are certainly not alone in these sorts of troubles.

Of great concern, however, is the development of violence. While the rest is, to some degree, unfortunately typical among pre-teens and teens today, violence is a serious thing. I would advise contacting a professional pediatric counseling about that.

As far as your prayers are concern, God hears your prayers. I am sure God is saying, "I hear you and I am doing what I can to influence your daughter."

One of the things we must always remember when praying about things that involve the need for other people to make decisions, is that God does not force anyone to do anything. He can influence, encourage, or inspire, but He will not force. Each of us have the freedom to make our own decisions -- even if that decision is contrary to the will of God.

Your prayers are heard and answered by God, but your daughter may not be responding to God's call to her. Your job, then, is to persevere in prayer. I know it is hard to see your child's behavior as it is, but perseverance is key.

I would advise developing a devotion to St. Monica. She prayed for her reprobate son for years and years. Finally, about three months before her death, if I remember correctly, her son came to his senses and returned to the Church. Her son became a doctor of the Church and one of the greatest Saints in the history of the Church. Her son's name, of course, was Augustine.

Now with this said, there are some additional things you have available to you in your arsenal of parentage. As a parent you have spiritual authority over your household. Accepting that authority you may step in and take charge in the spirit to demand that any intrusion of the enemy that may be harassing your household or your daughter specifically will be cast out. You can take authority to place a hedge of protection around your household and around your daughter.

Now, still, keep in mind that while you have this authority in the spirit as the parent in the household, your daughter still has her own free will.

Given these facts, what I recommend is to pray certain prayers from our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog.

For your convenience I have copied some of the prayers here below:

Prayer for our Children

We bow humbly before You, heavenly Father, to pray for our children,     [names of children], and for our whole family. We bring our children and our family before You in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.

We thank You, Lord, that You love     [names of children]    and our entire family, with the love of Calvary. We thank You that You have given     [names of children]    to us to love and nurture in Christ.

We ask You to forgive us together as parents, and each of us alone in our roles as father and mother, for all our failures to guide our children in the way they ought to go. Help us Lord to be the parents You want us to be; that we may train     [names of children]    in Your ways, that we may model the Christ-life before them, so that when they grow-up they will love You and live for You.

Accepting our position through You of having "divine power to demolish strongholds" (2 Cor. 10:4) that come into our family, we ask You Father to bring all the work of the Lord Jesus, strengthened by the intercession of the Immaculate Virgin Mary, Mother of God, of Blessed Michael the Archangel, of the Blessed Apostles Peter and Paul, and all the Saints and Angels of Heaven, and powerful in the holy authority of His Name, to focus directly against the powers of darkness that do now or may later bother, influence, and bind     [names of children]    and our family in any way; and specifically against     (name specific areas of troubles or problems).

We pray that You shall bring the victory of our Lord's incarnation, crucifixion, resurrection, Ascension, and glorification directly against all of Satan's power brought against us in our family and specifically in the lives of     [names of children]    . We ask You heavenly Father to bind up all power of darkness set to destroy     [names of children]    , or our family, and we loose     [names of children]    , and this family, from the influence and harassment of Satan and his demons, in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.

We invite the blessed Holy Spirit to move in hearts of     [names of children]    that they may know the truth as they are able at their age. We invite the blessed Holy Spirit to move in our hearts and to convict us of sin, of righteousness, and of our responsibility as parents to raise     [names of children]    in Your name.

We plead the blood of Christ over     [names of children]    and this family. We claim for us a life yielded to serve the true and living God in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.

Resisting Satan’s Attack Against Our Household

In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, strengthened by the intercession of the Immaculate Virgin Mary, Mother of God, of Blessed Michael the Archangel, of the Blessed Apostles Peter and Paul, and all the Saints and Angels of Heaven, and powerful in the holy authority of His name, and by my authority as head of the household, I(we) come before You Heavenly Father to ask you to come against the powers of darkness causing (name whatever symptom). Come against these powers, O Lord, because of the power of my(our) union with the Lord Jesus Christ. According to Your Word, O Lord, and through His precious blood I(we) resist the devil and his minions.

I(we) resist the devil and all of his workers by the Person and power of the Lord Jesus Christ. I(we) submit (and submit this household) to the Lordship and control of the Lord Jesus, and I(we) as you Father to bring the power of my(our) Lord’s incarnation, His crucifixion, His resurrection, His ascension, His glorification, and His second coming directly to focus against all evil forces and all of the evil work against _________. (By the authority of my position as head of the household), I(we) claim my(our) union with the Lord Jesus Christ, and I(we) resist the devil; I(we) resist the devil and all his minions, and I(we) ask You heavenly Father to force these evil ones to flee from before the truth of God.

Further, O Lord, I(we) ask You to bind together the whole kingdom of the evil one and to bind them from working, and finally to command all evil forces and their kingdom to leave ________ and to go where the Lord Jesus Christ may sends them. Amen.

Other prayers are the Rebuking Particular Spirits Affecting the Household, Breaking Household Curses and Spells, and Hedge Prayer for Return of Wayward Person.

These are all found in the Catalog linked above.

All of this may not resolve the situation the way you want, or as soon as you want, but God will hear you. It may require your daughter to hit bottom before she comes to her senses.

We will be in prayer for you and her. God love you and your daughter. He knows your pain. Persevere in the Faith and in prayer and He will help you through this.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary