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Sexual Thoughts | John | Tuesday, February 15, 2005 |
Question: I have been dealing with scrupulisity for many years. While I believe I have made progress in dealing with my condition, the area of sexual thoughts continues to be a recurring problem for me. I'm treating this as a compulsion brought on by my scrupulosity and not mortally sinful. However, I constantly worry that I may be making some mistakes in my determinations that these thoughts are not sinful. In an effort to fight the compulsion, I am continuing to receive Communion without first going to Confession. However, I discuss the problem when I do go to Confession. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM
Dear John: A fleeting thought of a sexual nature is not a sin in-and-of-itself. But rumination over the thoughts, entertaining them, indulging them becomes sinful. On thing you need to STOP doing immediately is trying to "re-experience" the thoughts. You are asking for trouble in doing that. In fact the attempt to "re-experience" the thoughts is what can take an otherwise fleeting thought into a sinful thought. The idea is to not cultivate, obsess, or indulge the thoughts. Rather recognize that fleeting thoughts are just fleeting thoughts and allow them to fleet their way out of your mind. One medical remedy is using a drug like Zoloft. This drug is useful to people with obsessions and compulsions (scrupulosity is a religious form of obsessive/compulsive disorder). I recommend to people who have sexual addictions to check with their doctors about perscribing this drug or something similar. It can work very well for some people helping them to control there thoughts. Pre-occupying your mind with something else can also be helpful. If you are beginning to think something inappropriate try focusing on something else; preoccupy your mind with other activities and thoughts. This will take practice, but it can work in training yourself to avoid inappropriate thoughts. Staying away from the near occasion of sin is a must. Stay away from the beach where near-naked woman hang out, avoid watching movies with sex and nudity scenes, etc. The bottomline is self-discipline. You have to work at it. At a resturant when the watress comes over to your table force yourself to look only at her eyes when talking to her and look down to the table to avoid looking at her. This might sound silly, but if that is what it takes then that is what it takes. You might also think about joining a support group like the one on this website called, Catholic Support Group for Sexual Addiction Recovery. Prayer, of course, is the central core of trying to control your thoughts and capture them for Christ. But most of us will always have fleeting thoughts. Even St. Teresa of Avila had problems with sexual thoughts until she ask God to give her the gift of perfect chastity of mind. Oh, how it would be nice to have that gift! God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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