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Dating non-believers | Danny | Tuesday, October 17, 2017 |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD
Dear Danny: Well, we need to remember that the purpose of dating is not companionship or sex, but to look for a potential mate. If a person is not marriage material, then one should not date that person at all. An atheist is not marriage material since an atheist cannot fulfill the a major purpose of a parent: to teach the child the faith, to model the faith to the child, so he will grow into an adult who has faith and who is imbued with Christian morality and virtue. Only in this way can the child grow into a genuinely responsible and virtuous adult who loves God and loves his self and his neighbor. An atheist mother (or father) cannot be that teacher, that model, that mentor for Christ in the eyes of his children. This risks not only that the child will not be properly raised in the Catholic faith and the Catholic worldview, which is equally important, but the child may abandon the faith, which risks his salvation. There is nothing worse that a parent can do then to jeopardize the salvation of this children by abandoning his role as a parent as God ordained it. The best chance of a child growing up with faith and virtue, and in friendship with God, and salvation of his soul, is to grow up with father and a mother in love with each other and who are devout practicing Catholics. Anything less creates unnecessary hardships standing in the way of the child's development in the faith. None of this can be done by an atheist parent. Another qualification of a mate is to affirm and encourage the faith in one's spouse. To live the faith together to better assure the salvation of each of them. This cannot be done if one spouse is an atheist. With all that said, this young man should stop dating this atheist woman before the two of them "fall in love". If that happens it will be too late as they will not wish to part. This brings us full circle to the basic premise that one should not date anyone who is not marriage material. Fundamental Marriageability means a person needs to be a devout, practicing, and mature Catholic who knows the faith and lives that faith everyday and at all times (not just on Sundays). Other factors in looking for a mate, such as personality, compatibility, chemistry, like-minds, similar interests, etc. take a second seat in comparison to the above. I hope this helps. God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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