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should i leave my family?	Maria	Sunday, December 25, 2016
Question: Hi, I will tell my story in chronological order. First, my mother was born through an affair and became a foster child. She met my dad and had their first child. Then, they came to the United States. Growing up, I thought I had a happy childhood. I knew my family was different than most, but I was naive. Our house was dirty and my parents were not very much involved in their children's lives. My mom was pretty lazy and she always watched TV and laid in bed. Now, that I am grown up and a lot more things have happened to my family... my mother having an affair... my parents divorced recently...my mother asking me the most heart breaking question if her boyfriend can live in our apartment.. my sister got addicted to heroine... my brother does not work or go to school... lots of financial problems and mishaps.. I'm starting to even think that maybe my whole family line is cursed or given more special attention from the evil one. It breaks my heart so much to have to live in this kind of environment. I was away in college before most of this happened but I came back and I had to experience all of this. I'm thinking maybe I should move out. I have a job that could support me and I'm hoping to go to medical school (praying that I will get accepted). So, I'm not sure what to do... My family is no longer Catholic and I'm the only practicing Catholic in the family. I feel like God has protected me all of my life. Right now, I just don't know what to do.. if I should leave my family because this household is spiritually unhealthy for me or if I should stay to help my family. Also, another thing to mention is that there is a language barrier with my mom and I. She only knows how to speak her foreign language and I can't speak it well at all. Otherwise, I would tell her more things. Also, I kept telling her to go talk to a priest, but she doesn't want to. Sometimes she goes to mass with me but she never eats the Body of Christ, and she continues on with her sinful life. Please, any advice would help.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD Dear Maria: I am sorry to hear about your family situation. It is very difficult. It is possible that your family is under a curse. You can pray the Breaking Household Curses and Spells and the Hedge Prayer for Protection of Household, but ultimately freedom from the situation your family is in depends upon them getting back to God. There is also a prayer for Hedge Prayer for Return of Wayward Catholics. You can review other prayers in our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog. As for moving out of the family home, if it is toxic to your spiritual health, then it may be best that you move out to your own apartment. Then, you can pray for your family and encourage them without having to live in the midst of the destructive environment. This is a decision you must make. No one can make it for you. We will be in prayer for you and for your family. We will also pray that you are accepted into medical school and will thrive there. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum

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should i leave my family?

Maria

Sunday, December 25, 2016

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Hi,
I will tell my story in chronological order. First, my mother was born through an affair and became a foster child. She met my dad and had their first child. Then, they came to the United States.

Growing up, I thought I had a happy childhood. I knew my family was different than most, but I was naive. Our house was dirty and my parents were not very much involved in their children's lives. My mom was pretty lazy and she always watched TV and laid in bed. Now, that I am grown up and a lot more things have happened to my family... my mother having an affair... my parents divorced recently...my mother asking me the most heart breaking question if her boyfriend can live in our apartment.. my sister got addicted to heroine... my brother does not work or go to school... lots of financial problems and mishaps.. I'm starting to even think that maybe my whole family line is cursed or given more special attention from the evil one.

It breaks my heart so much to have to live in this kind of environment. I was away in college before most of this happened but I came back and I had to experience all of this. I'm thinking maybe I should move out. I have a job that could support me and I'm hoping to go to medical school (praying that I will get accepted). So, I'm not sure what to do...

My family is no longer Catholic and I'm the only practicing Catholic in the family. I feel like God has protected me all of my life. Right now, I just don't know what to do.. if I should leave my family because this household is spiritually unhealthy for me or if I should stay to help my family.

Also, another thing to mention is that there is a language barrier with my mom and I. She only knows how to speak her foreign language and I can't speak it well at all. Otherwise, I would tell her more things. Also, I kept telling her to go talk to a priest, but she doesn't want to. Sometimes she goes to mass with me but she never eats the Body of Christ, and she continues on with her sinful life.

Please, any advice would help.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD

Dear Maria:

I am sorry to hear about your family situation. It is very difficult.

It is possible that your family is under a curse. You can pray the Breaking Household Curses and Spells and the Hedge Prayer for Protection of Household, but ultimately freedom from the situation your family is in depends upon them getting back to God. There is also a prayer for Hedge Prayer for Return of Wayward Catholics.

You can review other prayers in our Spiritual Warfare Prayer Catalog.

As for moving out of the family home, if it is toxic to your spiritual health, then it may be best that you move out to your own apartment. Then, you can pray for your family and encourage them without having to live in the midst of the destructive environment. This is a decision you must make. No one can make it for you.

We will be in prayer for you and for your family. We will also pray that you are accepted into medical school and will thrive there.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below:
Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum.
Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum
Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum
Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum
Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum