Note to everyone: I am way behind in answering questions due to health issues Once I get caught up I will try to keep up. I appreciate your prayers as my heart issues are further evaluated.

Dear Anton:

I cannot know God's will for you, but I do know for a fact that God is not torturing you. It is also a thinking error that you cannot handle the single life (Celibacy and Chastity). God always gives us the grace to handle whatever comes our way. That is His promise and God is not liar, He keeps his promises.

For example, here is one of His promises that applies to you in Romans 8:28 ~

We know that in everything God works for good [or, in everything he works for good, or everything works for good] with those who love him, who are called according to his purpose.

In other words, whatever lemons life throws at us, God will take that lemon and squeeze from it sweet lemonade. But, we have to let him to that. You need to let him do that.

We all have to learn to rest in the arms of our Lord and accept whatever His will may be for us at this moment. We can still pray for something, like meeting a person whom may become a spouse, but in the meantime we need to rest in His arms and accept our lot.

We have a pamphlet to help in this journey, "Christian Resignation as a Prerequisite to Freedom".

On another angle, i know you have tried hard to meet someone. You need to remember that women can "smell" desperation. This has even been scientifically discovered as true. You need to relax and be comfortable at being alone. Then, without expecting it you may meet someone.

I would also ask some female friends for advice. They may be able to instruct you on what you are doing, and what you should do, in meeting women.

Relax, Anton, and let things happen as they happen.

We will be praying for you in this intention.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary