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Participating in a catholic wedding for nonpracticing	Adela	Wednesday, June 29, 2016
Question: My husband and I are being asked to participate in my nieces wedding. She has been living with her boyfriend and now getting married in the church. She has not been a practicing catholic in fact she has made some rules of her own regarding doctrine. My husband and I are having difficulty accepting the duties of draping the rosary over her and her husband to be. Please advise on how to deal with this.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD Dear Adela: Well, it is possible that your niece has been to confession to confess her concubinage and novel ideas. If so, then she enters into marriage within the Church in a state of grace. I would talk with her to find out if she has confessed her concubinage and has accepted all the Church teaches. If she confirms that she has not, then I would explain to her that to be married in the Catholic Church under those circumstances makes her marriage under false pretenses. With that in mind explain to her that you cannot in good conscience perform this task in her wedding. I realize that this may cause a rift with her and perhaps with other family, but we must remember what Jesus said about this: (Matthew 10:34-39) 34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace on earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; 36 and a man’s foes will be those of his own household. 37 He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38 and he who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for my sake will find it. Now this is what I would do. You will have to search your own conscience for the answer. Follow your conscience. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum

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Participating in a catholic wedding for nonpracticing

Adela

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

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My husband and I are being asked to participate in my nieces wedding. She has been living with her boyfriend and now getting married in the church. She has not been a practicing catholic in fact she has made some rules of her own regarding doctrine. My husband and I are having difficulty accepting the duties of draping the rosary over her and her husband to be. Please advise on how to deal with this.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD

Dear Adela:

Well, it is possible that your niece has been to confession to confess her concubinage and novel ideas. If so, then she enters into marriage within the Church in a state of grace.

I would talk with her to find out if she has confessed her concubinage and has accepted all the Church teaches. If she confirms that she has not, then I would explain to her that to be married in the Catholic Church under those circumstances makes her marriage under false pretenses. With that in mind explain to her that you cannot in good conscience perform this task in her wedding.

I realize that this may cause a rift with her and perhaps with other family, but we must remember what Jesus said about this:

(Matthew 10:34-39)

34 “Do not think that I have come to bring peace on earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; 36 and a man’s foes will be those of his own household. 37 He who loves father or mother more than me is not worthy of me; and he who loves son or daughter more than me is not worthy of me; 38 and he who does not take his cross and follow me is not worthy of me. 39 He who finds his life will lose it, and he who loses his life for my sake will find it.

Now this is what I would do. You will have to search your own conscience for the answer. Follow your conscience.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

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Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum
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