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Stopping Dialysis | Chas | Saturday, January 23, 2016 |
Question: My mother-in-law whom I dearly love is 95, very sound mind, strong heart, very alert. She has severe arthritis is in constant pain, not severe all the times, and in the mornings, since she lives with us, I help her get up. Some mornings she is in tears from the pain. She is heavy set and unable to do anything on her own. She can't walk and my wife has to bathe her, change her clothes, comb her hair, go to bathroom, etc. We do practically every for her and I cook for her and I don't mind it a bit. I am retired so I am home all the time. My wife works part time four days a week for us to make ends meet. We depend on our Lord for financial assistance and praise be to God, we have never had to ask people for money. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD
Dear Chas: I am sorry to hear about your mother-in-law. We will surely pray for her. My 85 year old father is undergoing dialysis, thus I am familiar with this issue. The U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops says: “We have a duty to preserve our life and to use it for the glory of God, but the duty to preserve life is not absolute, for we may reject life-prolonging procedures that are insufficiently beneficial or excessively burdensome. Suicide and euthanasia are never morally acceptable options.” The last sentence refers to someone being put to death (euthanasia) or someone taking action to kill oneself (suicide). Stopping a life-prolonging procedure allows for a natural death. This is not suicide. Before one chooses to cease a life-prolonging procedure like dialysis, careful, thoughtful, and prayerful consideration should be made. Your mother-in-law needs to pray about this, talk to family, and to doctors (to learn what will happen after dialysis stops). Both she and the family need to approach this in respect and love. It is ultimately your mother-in-law's decision, which needs to be respected. Family members should not oppose this decision because they do not want to let go of her, and your mother-in-law should not decide this because she feels to be a burden. Both of these positions are selfish. That is, both positions are making decisions for other people that are inappropriate in my opinion. When family members pressure the loved-one to not stop the procedure because they do not want to let go, this is selfish as they want what they want instead of respecting what the sick loved-one wants. When the sick loved-one want to die because she feels a burden on others, this too is selfish because she fails to respect the decision of care-givers who are caring she her out of love. She needs to let the caregivers receive the grace that comes from their sacrifice to freely and lovingly care for her. The decision of your mother-in-law needs to be thoughtful and considered. She needs to pray about this. If she decides that dialysis is "insufficiently beneficial or excessively burdensome", that is burdensome on her, not on others in my opinion, and decides to stop the dialysis, then it is a good decision that she may make. In any event, this is her decision. Whatever she decides needs to be respected. Allowing "nature to take its course" is not suicide and is an acceptable alternative in the eyes of the Church. God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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