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Should I continue praying the return of my Husband	Rhea	Monday, January 11, 2016
Question: I believe that my faith with God is strong. When I first felt my husband is having an affair, I seek God in prayer and guidance. God show me that the affair is real. So when I personally discover the affair my husband left me and choose to be alone and to continue his affair with the adulteress. I love my husband and my conviction with our marriage and with God is strong. So even after the separation, I have forgive him and hope for our reconciliation. But honestly, I believe that after finding out the affair is real and with everyone around me telling me to move on and leave my husband. My faith with God and our marriage is beginning to diminish. :( I am so confused, I love my husband and God knows that I want to fight for it to save our marriage. But everyone is telling me to just move on with my life and to start thinking about myself, instead of my relationship and our marriage. So, my prayers would often be, a few days I would constantly pray for our marriage to be healed, then when I talk to someone and told them how I am having a hard time and the pain is deep and I am hurting, they would convince me to just move on with my life. To leave my husband alone that is what God wants for me. But I don't know, I am confuse. God has always been there for me, He knows my heart. God knows how deep is my love for my husband and that it is only my Husband can appease the pain in my hurt. So please, let me know., if I should start living my life and pray for myself and move on or to continue and pray wholeheartedly about my wayward husband return and our marriage reconciliation. I am so confuse because even those I think can be my prayer warrior to help me pray for my husband want me to just pray for myself and not think of my husband. Thank you
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD Dear Rhea: I am sorry that this is happening to you. I know the pain of this because it happened to me back in 1979 when I wife took up with another man. We need to remember that God does not force people to do anything. We have free will and God always respects that. Thus, if our spouse does not wish to reconcile, God can try to convince them to reconcile, but He will not force them to do so. If it is apparent that your husband will not reconcile and divorces you, it is time to move on as your husband has made his decision. At that point, you can decide to never marry again, or you can seek an annulment, which if granted, will allow you to marry again. But, dear, no matter how much you love your husband, he cannot be forced to reconcile. God can heal your heart, but it will take time. God loves you and will be there for you as you go through this. He will heal your broken heart. Pray for reconciliation for a time, maybe he will return. But when the divorce comes there is no choice but to move on. We will pray for you and your husband. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum

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Should I continue praying the return of my Husband

Rhea

Monday, January 11, 2016

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I believe that my faith with God is strong. When I first felt my husband is having an affair, I seek God in prayer and guidance. God show me that the affair is real. So when I personally discover the affair my husband left me and choose to be alone and to continue his affair with the adulteress.

I love my husband and my conviction with our marriage and with God is strong. So even after the separation, I have forgive him and hope for our reconciliation. But honestly, I believe that after finding out the affair is real and with everyone around me telling me to move on and leave my husband. My faith with God and our marriage is beginning to diminish. :(

I am so confused, I love my husband and God knows that I want to fight for it to save our marriage. But everyone is telling me to just move on with my life and to start thinking about myself, instead of my relationship and our marriage. So, my prayers would often be, a few days I would constantly pray for our marriage to be healed, then when I talk to someone and told them how I am having a hard time and the pain is deep and I am hurting, they would convince me to just move on with my life. To leave my husband alone that is what God wants for me. But I don't know, I am confuse. God has always been there for me, He knows my heart. God knows how deep is my love for my husband and that it is only my Husband can appease the pain in my hurt.

So please, let me know., if I should start living my life and pray for myself and move on or to continue and pray wholeheartedly about my wayward husband return and our marriage reconciliation.

I am so confuse because even those I think can be my prayer warrior to help me pray for my husband want me to just pray for myself and not think of my husband.

Thank you

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD

Dear Rhea:

I am sorry that this is happening to you. I know the pain of this because it happened to me back in 1979 when I wife took up with another man.

We need to remember that God does not force people to do anything. We have free will and God always respects that. Thus, if our spouse does not wish to reconcile, God can try to convince them to reconcile, but He will not force them to do so.

If it is apparent that your husband will not reconcile and divorces you, it is time to move on as your husband has made his decision. At that point, you can decide to never marry again, or you can seek an annulment, which if granted, will allow you to marry again.

But, dear, no matter how much you love your husband, he cannot be forced to reconcile. God can heal your heart, but it will take time. God loves you and will be there for you as you go through this. He will heal your broken heart.

Pray for reconciliation for a time, maybe he will return. But when the divorce comes there is no choice but to move on.

We will pray for you and your husband.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

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Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum.
Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum
Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum
Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum
Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum