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Ministering to a terminally ill person | Walt | Saturday, December 19, 2015 |
Question: We just learned my 87-year old father-in-law is suffering from terminal cancer. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD
Dear Walt: What you describe is not unusual. Your wife's parents were raised in this atmosphere and lived in that ethnic atmosphere, which will affect their thinking and practice toward Church. God understands these issues. The Church teaches that when there is a diminished capacity in a person, lack of "compete consent," for whatever reasons, grave matter is not mortal, (CCC 1859) thus eternal salvation is not effected by that issue. Only God can know, however, when this diminished capacity exists. One must have complete freedom of will to consent to the sin (in this case the sin of not attending Church). If that free will is impaired, which it may be with your wife's parents because of their experiences, then no true consent is possible. Thus, we can always have hope that a loved one is still heaven-bound based upon the possibility of their diminished capacity. As to your situation, I would express the truth about these things with love and patience. Do not nag or argue. Show them the truth by your actions more than your words. St. Francis said that we should "Preach the gospel, and if necessary, use words". Pray for them. We have a prayer in our Spiritual Warfare Catalog for wayward Catholics. This can be used for your wife's Protestant father as well: Hedge Prayer for Return of Wayward Catholics. There is also a prayer for non-Catholics: Hedge Prayer for our Separated Brethren. We will be in prayer for them and for you and your wife. God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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