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PTSD and Forgiveness | Crystal | Saturday, August 9, 2014 |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), LTh, DD
Dear Crystal: I am sorry to hear about all the trauma you have experienced. We will certainly be in prayer for you. We have a pamphlet dealing with the subject of how to forgive that i would recommend: Dealing with Bitterness and Unforgiveness. We are having some server problems that hopefully will be fixed today, but if this PDF file does not come up, try again in a day or two. The basic information to remember is that forgiveness is not about emotions. Forgiveness is a decision of will apart of any emotional feelings, upheavals, or trauma. What this means is that one must decide to forgive in a way that, if necessary, is cold and deliberate, ignoring all emotions. Emotions may take years to calm down, and in some cases it may take therapy. But, forgiveness is possible before one is healed by making a decision of will. How to do this is a simple prayer: "In the name of Jesus Christ, I forgive _______ for ________." The second blank line where you insert the reason you need to forgive the person, but it should be a short one-liner sentence, not a whole narrative, or even omit is altogether if even giving a one-liner statement is too emotional. Our Lord knows the reasons, thus "In the name of Jesus Christ, I forgive _______" is sufficient. In cases like yours you may need to offer the simple prayer above on a daily basis. Studies have shown that recounting the whole story of the trauma over and over actually harms your ability to forgive, and can harm your therapy and healing, because recounting the story over and over again only dredges up all the negative emotions all over again. You do need to recount your story to your therapist, but need to avoid telling it over and over. Psychological researchers a few years ago found this to be true. The bottomline is that we must forgive as a decision of will. The emotions calming down and healing will come later. The decision of will is like deciding to go to the doctor. The treatment and healing of the aliment may take time, but healing is not possible if one does not make the decision of will to go to the doctor in the first place. Making a decision of will to forgive is offering the forgiveness before Dr. Jesus. It will take time for the healing. I hope this helps. God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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