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Living a dream or living in a dream world | Chas | Wednesday, September 11, 2013 |
Question: Dear brother He said there have been people who have succeeded against all odds. He said there was a 92-year-old lady who was able to get a college degree so there is nothing that cannot be done if one gets their mind to it. However, and I have failed to point this to him, is that they all had someone to lead them, coach them, train them etc. He plans to do it all by himself. He said that we all have to live our dream. I told him that we certainly should strive to live our dream but not live in a dream world. He is a nice kid and puts a lot of trust in me but he says he hates to be told he can’t do something so he will just try and prove them wrong. By saying that is that not implying revenge in trying to accomplish something that we know is beyond our reach? He knows that the odds of making it are zero to nil, but he wants to prove everybody wrong and claim he will be the first to do it his way. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), CCL, LTh, DD, LNDC
Dear Chas: He is young, which automatically makes him foolish. His brain is barely formed. The human brain is not fully formed until around 21 years of age. The last structure of the brain to form is that responsible for wisdom. This is why young people can intellectually know something to be true, yet ignore that knowledge and do something foolish anyway. Secondly, young men his age are arrogant and immature and rarely see reality. You have done all you can do. You will now have to let him find out for himself. There is a quote from Will Rogers that says, "There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves." If you push him on this, you may push him away from the Church too. I think your primary focus ought to be helping him to convert to the Church. That is a given regardless of what dreams he has. You have to let him find out for himself the realities of life. You can be cautiously supportive, and when the balloon pops, which it likely will, be there to comfort him and encourage him into a different vocation. But, right now I think you need to focus on his faith. God Bless,
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