Dear Christina:

I think you are missing my point. I call it fantastical to have a lack of belief that a mortal sin could be left out of the Nun's confession. There is nothing surprising in that. Nun's are human and this Nun apparently was so consumed with pride that she refused to confess an embarrassing mortal sin. By the way, you keep referring to this Nun's sin as "impurity." We do not know what her sin was. You need to stop referring to her sin as that of impurity.

In any event, that was a story to illustrate a point about deliberately refusing to confess a sin. That is all it was, for pete sake. Let it go.

You say:

What I meant is that I fine it hard to believe that a mortal sin could be left out of Confession. Especially, a sin of impurity if one only needs to state the number of times and say 'sin of impurity'. But, as you stated I am wrong in my understanding on how to confess.

I answered this thoroughly. Did you not read my answer? I'll answer it again, I guess. People leave out mortal sins from their confessions all the time. It is embarrassment born of pride that causes them to do that. It is that simple. Do not try to make it more than it is. People do all sorts of crazy and nonsensical things under the influence of pride. That is why Pride is listed first among the seven deadly sins.

As to confessing impurity, you need to say MORE than "I committed the sin of impurity," as I extensively explained in the previous post. "Impurity" comes in many kinds. You need to confess what kind of impurity it is. To fail to confess the kind of impurity is again based on embarrassment born of pride. Just confess the sins. Stop all this hair-splitting.

And again, there is no such thing as having to take more than one hour to confess one's sins unless you are telling the stories behind the sins. STOP IT. Just give the list and then if the priest wants to hear more he will ask.

You cannot just mention "a few" of your sins. You must list ALL of your sins in kind and number (explanations not needed) for a confession to be a good one. Even if you committed every sin mentioned in the Bible and by the Church,every sin there is,  it would not take a hour. Stop spending time with the explanations and stories. 

The only reason spend that much time in confessional is pride and not taking responsibility for your own actions. IT DOES NOT MATTER what the story is, what the circumstances are. Just list the sins in kind and number as I have already explained and exampled in previous posts.

If you need pastoral counseling, make an appointment with the priest to meet weekly (or however often needed) outside of the Confessional. The Confessional is not the place for therapy, it is to confess sins, and perhaps receive a brief counsel and encouragement from the priest.

You need to take that same advice I gave to Jack about the nature of confession.

A list of impurities? Impurity is:

• any sex act outside of marriage between one man and one woman.
• any sex act within marriage that degrades the human person, such as S&M, bondage, domination, and other things too disgusting to mention, and such.
• indulging in lustful thoughts toward others not your spouse.
• indulging in lascivious behavior (behavior that inspires sexual desire or lustful thoughts in someone other than one's spouse.
• Immodest behavior or dress

On modesty, St. John Chrysostom written more than 1600 years ago:

You carry your snare everywhere and spread your nets in all places. You allege that you never invited others to sin. You did not, indeed, by your words, but you have done so by your dress and your deportment and much more effectively than you could by your voice.

When you have made another sin in his heart, how can you be innocent?

Tell me, whom does this world condemn? Whom do judges in court punish? Those who drink poison or those who prepare it and administer the fatal potion? You have prepared the abominable cup, you have given the death-dealing drink, and you are more criminal than are those who poison the body; you murder not the body but the soul. And it is not to enemies you do this, nor are you urged on by any imaginary necessity, nor provoked by injury, but out of foolish vanity and pride.

We need to be modest in our dress, our deportment, in our language, and in our behavior. We need to practice the virtue of Temperance and not allow our emotions and passion to rule over us. But, when we do fail, the Sacrament of Confession is there to cleanse us

Since you appear to be suffering possibly from Scrupulosity, which is the religious form of Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder (OCD), I suggest that you consult with a psychiatrist to determine if you do have OCD or some other disorder. Medication is available that can help you to think more clearly by reducing your OCD tendency.

Also, my suggestion, in order to not feed into the OCD, is to move on. It sounds like you have been told this repeatedly. Do not go for another General Confession. If you have done one before there is no need to do another one. Hanging on to past sins, worrying about past sins and past confessions is a form of pride and/or a psychiatric condition, or both.

Move on with your life and stop obsessing about the past confessions. In your next confession confess only those sins you have committed since your last confession. The priest has told you to move on, so you have an obligation to obey and move on.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary