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Be Fruitful and Multiply | David | Sunday, January 22, 2012 |
Question: Dear Brother - Can you guide me into properly understanding God's word as it relates to "Be Fruitful and Multiply"? The reason I ask is that because in some of the previous responses to a similar or related question, I feel that more is left unsaid than said (this could be due to lack of poor understanding on my part). I know that each and every marital embrace is supposed to be open to the possibility of life. And I also know that the Church advises use of NFP as the only moral way to regulate or space out birth of children. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r), L.Th., D.D.
Dear David: You are correct in your understand that each and every act of the marital embrace must be open to life. You are also correct the NFP cannot be used with a contraceptive mentality, but must be for legitimate and serious motivations. As to your questions: 1) If God blesses you with many children He will also give you the grace to handle it. Jesus said:
God is not a liar, he keeps his promises. He will give you the grace to emotionally handle many children. God promises that and he is not a liar. However, you must accept that grace as God will not force it upon you. He will also take care of you and your large family in terms of the physical and financial aspect. Now God will do this but he'll do it according to his will, not yours. To follow God's will may mean a lot of sacrifices. For example, instead of buying a new car one might need to buy a ten year-old car. Instead of having a $250,000 house in a nice neighborhood one may need to downscale what kind of house they live in and what kind of neighborhood they live in. Such a family may need to sacrifice on what type of food they eat. Instead of expensive steaks such a family may need to focus more on hamburger. You get the point. One may need to reevaluate one's lifestyle in order to accommodate the will of God. Although it may be irritating, God does not give you this grace in advance. So as you sit here and think about this, about having ten kids or fifteen or twenty, it is natural to think, "how can I possibly handle"? God will not give you the grace in advance, but he will give you the grace at the moment that you need it. 2) In Natural Family Planning, one must have a proper motivation to use it. The Catechism states:
When it is a question of harmonizing married love with the responsible transmission of life, the morality of the behavior does not depend on sincere intention and evaluation of motives alone; but it must be determined by objective criteria, criteria drawn from the nature of the person and his acts, criteria that respect the total meaning of mutual self-giving and human procreation in the context of true love; this is possible only if the virtue of married chastity is practiced with sincerity of heart. To help discern this issue for you and your wife, speaking with a spiritual director, confessor, a priest is a wise course. I also recommend the website of Couple-to-Couple League. They may also help in deciding this very important decision. 3 & 4) St. Paul says that a married couple is not to refrain from the marital embrace, except for short periods for prayer. To abstain from the marital embrace pemenantly to avoid more children is using abstinance as a contraception. Marriage is order for the purpose of children. The martial embrace is ordered to having children and for the bonding between husband and wife. If you were to abstain permanently you will be damaging your marriage, as the bonding purpose of sex will be absent for improper reasons. NFP the method to use if you believe, in consultation with your spiritual director or confessor, that more children cannot be afforded and thus NFP is justified. NFP fulfills the order of marriage and the marital embrace. To do anything else is a distrust of God. In using NFP the marital embrace is still open to life. If God gives you another baby anyway then you should rejoice. Babies are not burdens but blessings. The attitude of the world is that babes are inconveniences. Obama said that if his daughter become pregnant as a teen, "Why should she be punished by having a baby." What an evil man. Trust in God and you and your wife and family will be blessed. God Bless,
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