It is not correct to say there is not evil, but only Good and the absence of Good. That is what the devil would like you to think.
There is real and true Evil. It exists and the devil is a real person who exists and who tries to destroy us.
I cannot speak to the reference to St. Augustine without reading the original in full context. If this teaching of St. Augustine is on the Internet, maybe you can give me the web address.
As for forgiving others, we need to remember that forigiveness is an act of will. It is something we either choose to do or choose not to do.
Below is an outline that comes from the Deliverance Counseling Manual. This is what we teach our clients about forgiveness:
Here are some important points to remember about forgiveness:
1) Forgiveness is not forgetting:
People who try to forget find that cannot. It is an unfortunate quirk of the English language with the phrase, “Forgive and forget”. In actuality this phrase does not mean to “forget” in the sense of not remembering what happened; of course we will remember.
God says He will "remember our sins no more" (Heb. 10: 17), but God, being omniscient, obviously cannot literally forget. "Remember no more" means that God will never use the past against us (Ps. 103:12).
To forget is really “to let go”. We need to “let go and let God”. We let go of the past, but more importantly we let go of the hurt. As long as we do not forgive, as long as we do not let go, we allow the offender of our wounds continue to hurt us.
We must remember that “forgetting” may be the result of forgiveness, but it is never the means of forgiveness. When we bring up the past against others, we are saying we haven't forgiven them; when we continue to allow ourselves to hurt without attempting to heal we are saying that we have not forgiven them.
2) Forgiveness is a choice not a feeling:
Since God requires us to forgive, it is something we can do. God will NEVER ask us to do something that is impossible for us to do; that would be cruel and God is a loving God.
Forgiveness, however, is difficult for us because it pulls against our feelings and emotional hurts. Forgiveness is not about forgetting our feelings or our emotional hurts. We often will not “feel” like forgiving, but we must forgive anyway. As the Lord Prayer teaches us, God forgives us “as we forgive others”. But how can God require this of us when we have been hurt so badly?
God does not expect your feelings and emotional hurts to be healed overnight. He knows and understands our feelings and our hurts. He is a compassionate God and will help us to heal over time, as we are able.
What God expects of us is not an immediate emotional healing, but a decision of will to forgive, a decision of will to trust Him to take care of the offender and to heal us, a decision of will to ask God for, and to commit to, being healed of our wounds.
3) Forgiveness is not letting the person off the hook:
Forgiving is about you letting go, but it is not letting the offender off the hook. He will still pay for what he did, either before the Law or before God or both.
Forgiving is surely difficult for us because it pulls against our concept of justice. We want revenge for offenses suffered. But we are told never to take our own revenge (Rom. 12:9). Revenge does more damage to us than it punishes the offender. God’s justice will prevail, no one can escape it. Never fear, those who hurt us will be held accountable, but we must let God deal with it. In order for God to deal with it, we need to let Him by letting go.
"Why should I let them off the hook?" That is precisely the problem — we are still hooked to them, still bound by our past when we do not forgive.
To forgive does not mean letting the person off the hook; it means letting yourself off the hook.
4) But you don't understand how much this person hurt me:
But the person is still hurting us! How do we stop the pain? We don't forgive someone for their sake; we do it for our sake so we can be free. Our need to forgive isn't an issue between the offender and us; it's between us and God.
5) Forgiveness is agreeing to live with the consequences of another’s sin:
Forgiveness is costly. We pay the price of the evil we forgive. We're going to live with those consequences whether we want to or not; our only choice is whether we will do so in the bitterness of forgiveness or the freedom of forgiveness.
Jesus took the consequences of our sin upon Himself. All true forgiveness is substitutional because no one really forgives without bearing the consequences of the other person's sin. God the Father "made Him who knew no sin to be sin on our behalf, that we might become the righteousness of God in Him" (2 Cor. 5:2 1).
Where is the justice? It's the Cross that makes forgiveness legally and morally right: "For the death that He died, He died to sin, once for all" (Rom. 6: 10). This doesn't mean that we tolerate sin. We must always stand against sin, but we must give the offender to God and get on with our life.
6) How do we forgive from our heart?
First we acknowledge the hurt and the hate. If our forgiveness doesn't visit the emotional core of our life, it will be incomplete. Many feel the pain of interpersonal offenses, but they won't acknowledge it. Let God bring the pain to the surface so He can deal with it. This is where the healing takes place.
Don't wait to forgive until we feel like forgiving; we will never get there. Feelings take time to heal after the choice to forgive is made and Satan has lost his place (Eph. 4:26, 27). Freedom is what will be gained, not a feeling.
7) Summary of Points on Forgiveness:
· Forgiveness is necessary to have fellowship with God.
· It is not forgetting.
· It is a choice.
· Letting the offender off our hook is what frees us.
· The offender is not off God's hook.
· God says, "Revenge is mine."
· Forgiveness means we are agreeing to live with the consequences of another's sin — which we have to do anyway.
· The justice is in the cross.
· Our Choice is between bitterness and freedom that comes from forgiveness.
· Forgiveness means not using the past against the offender or against yourself.
· Forgiveness does not mean tolerating the sin.
· Why forgive? To stop the pain! As we live in unforgiveness the offender still hurts us!
· The act of forgiveness is for the your sake, and for your freedom.
· You must acknowledge the hurt and the hate.