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How to Help my daughter | LisaRa | Saturday, September 3, 2011 |
Question: My daughter is 18 yrs old. She has behavioral, spiritual, and emotional problems for most of her teen years. She has never had a close friends, is DETACHED from me emotionally and is addicted to computer. Everytime I go into her room, she bristles. Everytime I express my concerns, she gets defensive. The thing is now she insists she is gay, even though she has never had a friendship of that kind, because she says being gay is "a state of mind" and that it is WHO she is. I tell her she isn't sinning in feeling the feelings and thinking she is, but that acting on the feelings is the sin. Someday she says she plans to meet a girl and make a commitment, even if it is a sin to act on it. She Says she doesn't care if it is a sin. I am taking her to RCIA, and she accepts going because "she is under my roof", but she is not into it. She says she is agnostic. When we go to mass, she looks very very angry. She cries and demands to leave at the consecration of the Host. I am beside myself with not knowing what to do for her. I am in so much distress right now. We have so many other problems, and the financial stress is mounting daily. I have to help my mom who is in her 80's and my mentally ill brother clean their home as well as mine, and then worry how we will eat this evening. With what money. My mom frequently gives us money for my help to her, bless her heart, and my husband struggles with his clients who will not pay in a timely way. He works for the county where we live as a lawyer, but they have not relenquished his check for three months. I am just adding all of this so that you will know that the extra burden of helping my daughter almost feels as if it will break me. I am crying right now, I don't know what to do. I don't know what to do, Brother, short of killing myself, but I can't do that because I have two other daughters. One is very young---she is five. I could never leave my husband with all of this anyway, so God forgive me. I have these thoughts everyday. |
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Question Answered by
Dear LisaRa: I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. But the first thing we must deal with is your thoughts of suicide. This is a very serious thing. Under no circumstances should you overlook these feelings or think that you would never go through with it. You need to immediately contact your doctor, psychiatrist, or counselor to talk about this. You need to work through those feelings. If on any given day these thoughts of suicide are strong then you need to contact a crisis center. If there is no local crisis center, then you can call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255). By the way, it is often the case that when the child reaches around 40 years of age, they begin to reconcile with parents and with God. Trust in God. Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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