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Business (Career) losses	Rick	Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Question: In a nutshell, I was led (though technically not forced) in to early retirement with the promise of part-time continued employment for 4-5 years (not in writing--and yes, my stupidity). After six months on the part-time gig, I was told my services were no longer required. How do I rid myself of feelings of anger and hate toward the person(s) who put me in this position? Please understand all legal avenues have been exhausted.
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r) Dear Rick: I am sorry you have experienced this. It is natural to be angry, but St. Paul warns us: (Eph 4:26-27) Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. This is very important because if we allow anger to fester it will damage our psychology and even our bodies. Studies have shown anger and bitterness not only may cause psychological problems but even physical illness. Festering anger will also rob you of your peace in Christ, and can open the door for other spiritual problems that will damage your relationship with our Lord. In addition, festering anger can lead to demonic bondage. You must forgive your employers. Without forgiveness there is no healing, and, I might add you risk you own soul. Jesus said: (Matthew 6:14-15) For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father also will forgive you; but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses. People find it hard to forgive largely because they do not truly know what forgiveness involves. I suggest you read our pamphlet, Dealing with Bitterness and Unforgiveness. Festering anger is actually a form of pride. I would suggest that you prayer the Litany of Humility everyday. This will be hard, but it is necessary. All this has to do with resigning ourselves, abandoning ourselves to God. This is something we call need to do. We have a pamphlet on that too, Christian Resignation as a Prerequisite to Freedom. If you follow this advice, it should help you overcome the anger and unforgiveness and help you to move on. God loves you and is keeping watch over you. Remember his promise: (1 Cor 10:13) No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it. This is God's promise. He keeps His promises, He does not lie. So you can know that He will never allow anything to come into your life that will tempt you beyond your strength. He will always give you away to escape the tempt ions. The advise I have given you above is part of that escape. Also, spend some time in Adoration of the Blessed Sacraments, and in your favorite devotions. Talk to God, seek the solace of the Blessed Mother and the Saints. You will get through this. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum

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Rick

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

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In a nutshell, I was led (though technically not forced) in to early retirement with the promise of part-time continued employment for 4-5 years (not in writing--and yes, my stupidity). After six months on the part-time gig, I was told my services were no longer required. How do I rid myself of feelings of anger and hate toward the person(s) who put me in this position? Please understand all legal avenues have been exhausted.

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r)

Dear Rick:

I am sorry you have experienced this. It is natural to be angry, but St. Paul warns us:

(Eph 4:26-27) Be angry but do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.

This is very important because if we allow anger to fester it will damage our psychology and even our bodies. Studies have shown anger and bitterness not only may cause psychological problems but even physical illness.

Festering anger will also rob you of your peace in Christ, and can open the door for other spiritual problems that will damage your relationship with our Lord.

In addition, festering anger can lead to demonic bondage.

You must forgive your employers. Without forgiveness there is no healing, and, I might add you risk you own soul. Jesus said:

(Matthew 6:14-15) For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father also will forgive you; but if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.

People find it hard to forgive largely because they do not truly know what forgiveness involves. I suggest you read our pamphlet, Dealing with Bitterness and Unforgiveness.

Festering anger is actually a form of pride. I would suggest that you prayer the Litany of Humility everyday. This will be hard, but it is necessary.

All this has to do with resigning ourselves, abandoning ourselves to God. This is something we call need to do. We have a pamphlet on that too, Christian Resignation as a Prerequisite to Freedom.

If you follow this advice, it should help you overcome the anger and unforgiveness and help you to move on.

God loves you and is keeping watch over you. Remember his promise:

(1 Cor 10:13) No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, that you may be able to endure it.

This is God's promise. He keeps His promises, He does not lie. So you can know that He will never allow anything to come into your life that will tempt you beyond your strength. He will always give you away to escape the tempt ions. The advise I have given you above is part of that escape.

Also, spend some time in Adoration of the Blessed Sacraments, and in your favorite devotions. Talk to God, seek the solace of the Blessed Mother and the Saints.

You will get through this.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

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Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum.
Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum
Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum
Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum
Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum