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Eligible for Annulment | mary | Wednesday, September 15, 2004 |
Question: I have recently started dating someone who was married for 22 years (she was 17, he was 19). He was baptised Catholic; they were married in the Baptist church. Their circumstances that lead to the divorce are below. My question is, is there any chance that this marriage can be considered invalid after so many years of marriage, regardless of the circumstances that lead to the divorce? Also, until he gets an annulment (if that is even possible), am I committing adultery by seeing him? Circumstances for divorce: |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM+
Dear Mary: A Catholic getting married outside of the Catholic Church makes the marriage invalid in most circumstances. Your boyfriend needs to check with the Marriage Tribunal of your diocese to double-check what needs to be done, if anything, to establish his "single" status that would allow him to marry. The number of years married has not bearing on this. The circumstances of the divorce will most likely have bearing only if your boyfriend must undergo an annulment process. Since his marriage may have been invalid to begin with, the normal annnulment process may not have to be done. Tthe first step is to talk to the Marriage Tribunal at the Diocese offices to see where he stands and what needs to be done. On the question concerning "seeing him", there is no sin in "seeing" a person, but there is sin in having sex with this person regardless of whether or not he was married before. Sex between two unmarried persons is fornication. Sex between a married person and an unmarried person is adultery. Both are grave sins. ANY sex outside of marriage is grave sin and unless confessed and absolved will prevent you from receiving the Eucharist. Being friends, even with the intention of future marriage once the mess is cleared up and a Church wedding is possible, is not a sin as long as you remain "friends" and not become "lovers". God Bless,
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