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Dating a non-catholic	Susi	Sunday, November 7, 2010
Question: Dear Bro. Ignatious, I know mixed marriages are not a good idea and Church discourages mixed marriages. I also know about the standard requirements when to marry a non-catholic. As you said "Wisdom suggests that we not marry outside of our faith, and even then, only to another devout Catholic". I understand and I agree with that. My question is: A devout Catholic man, with all good and christian qualities is not easy to find. The most of catholic men (for example, friends of mine) they are not good catholics. They don't even go to mass and they say they are catholics. I have a non-catholic friend (Baptist/protestant) who is very good, and very devout to God. Church encourages dating bad catholics, only because it is better not dating non-catholics because of our faith? I hope you can help with my doubt, thank you so much, Susi
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r) Susi: The Church encourages dating and marrying good Catholics, not bad Catholics. Eligible good Catholics can be found although good men (and women) are always hard to find. The difficulty is finding a good Catholic to date and marry does not excuse dating and marrying a non-Catholic. We need to trust in God to bring across our path a good Catholic. If we do not wait upon the Lord, if we do not trust Him enough to wait for Him to find us a good mate, then our faith is lacking. That faith problem will add to the problems of marrying a non-Catholics, even to a good non-Catholic Christian. Bottomline: dating and marrying even a good Baptist creates problems in the marriage and with the children that I mentioned before in the other postings. In fact, marrying a good Baptist will cause more problems because a good Baptist will have a stronger faith that includes prejudice against the Catholic faith. I know it is hard, but pray to God that he will place in your path a good Catholic man. We all need to resign and abandon ourselves to God's will. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum

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Dating a non-catholic

Susi

Sunday, November 7, 2010

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Dear Bro. Ignatious,

I know mixed marriages are not a good idea and Church discourages mixed marriages. I also know about the standard requirements when to marry a non-catholic. As you said "Wisdom suggests that we not marry outside of our faith, and even then, only to another devout Catholic".

I understand and I agree with that. My question is: A devout Catholic man, with all good and christian qualities is not easy to find. The most of catholic men (for example, friends of mine) they are not good catholics. They don't even go to mass and they say they are catholics. I have a non-catholic friend (Baptist/protestant) who is very good, and very devout to God.

Church encourages dating bad catholics, only because it is better not dating non-catholics because of our faith?

I hope you can help with my doubt,

thank you so much,

Susi

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OMSM(r)

Susi:

The Church encourages dating and marrying good Catholics, not bad Catholics. Eligible good Catholics can be found although good men (and women) are always hard to find. The difficulty is finding a good Catholic to date and marry does not excuse dating and marrying a non-Catholic. We need to trust in God to bring across our path a good Catholic. If we do not wait upon the Lord, if we do not trust Him enough to wait for Him to find us a good mate, then our faith is lacking. That faith problem will add to the problems of marrying a non-Catholics, even to a good non-Catholic Christian.

Bottomline: dating and marrying even a good Baptist creates problems in the marriage and with the children that I mentioned before in the other postings. In fact, marrying a good Baptist will cause more problems because a good Baptist will have a stronger faith that includes prejudice against the Catholic faith.

I know it is hard, but pray to God that he will place in your path a good Catholic man. We all need to resign and abandon ourselves to God's will.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below:
Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum.
Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum
Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum
Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum
Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum