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***** Extent of effort required to complete marital act WARNING!! Adult Content	Tom	Monday, August 2, 2010
Question: Occassionally, during marital relations, after my wife has climaxed. I have difficulty achieving orgasm. There is no medical problem involved. We both desire to finish the act to be open to life, but discomfort begins to set in on both of our genitals despite lubrication. So I stop because I don't want her to be begin to hurt or tire. To what extent are we obliged to finish the act? I think charity should reign, but I may misguided. Thank you for your time,
Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM *** WARNING!! This question and answer is of a mature nature. Parental discretion is advised. Dear Tom: Thank you for your question. I praise God that you and your wife have a concern to be sure the marital embrace is a Godly one in obedience to God and His Church. I wish everyone was as concerned to do the right thing. What you are describing is a form of impotence. In this case the impotence is not the inability to have an erection, but a inability or difficulty in ejaculating for whatever reasons. I would recommend discussing this with a doctor and perhaps even with a psychologist as this can sometimes occur for psychological reasons. As for the moral issue, the key is your intent. From what you are describing you intend to be open to life. Your inability to physically accomplish that does not affect your intent. Thus, no sin is present here. As for how long you need to try, you do not need to keep trying until you hurt yourself, or your wife. You and your wife can relax whenever is comfortable by mutual agreement. But, I would advise seeking help to find out what is going on. If there is no medical issue, then there might be a psychological issue. There is no shame in this. If there is a psychological problem it will be subconscious. Therapy may be effective in solving the problem. Seek out a psychologist who knows about such things and see if any help is possible from that. God Bless, Bro. Ignatius Mary Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions** go to our Church History Q&A Forum

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Extent of effort required to complete marital act
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Tom

Monday, August 2, 2010

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Occassionally, during marital relations, after my wife has climaxed. I have difficulty achieving orgasm. There is no medical problem involved. We both desire to finish the act to be open to life, but discomfort begins to set in on both of our genitals despite lubrication. So I stop because I don't want her to be begin to hurt or tire. To what extent are we obliged to finish the act? I think charity should reign, but I may misguided.

Thank you for your time,

Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM

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WARNING!! This question and answer is of a mature nature. Parental discretion is advised.

Dear Tom:

Thank you for your question. I praise God that you and your wife have a concern to be sure the marital embrace is a Godly one in obedience to God and His Church. I wish everyone was as concerned to do the right thing.

What you are describing is a form of impotence. In this case the impotence is not the inability to have an erection, but a inability or difficulty in ejaculating for whatever reasons. I would recommend discussing this with a doctor and perhaps even with a psychologist as this can sometimes occur for psychological reasons.

As for the moral issue, the key is your intent. From what you are describing you intend to be open to life. Your inability to physically accomplish that does not affect your intent. Thus, no sin is present here.

As for how long you need to try, you do not need to keep trying until you hurt yourself, or your wife. You and your wife can relax whenever is comfortable by mutual agreement.

But, I would advise seeking help to find out what is going on. If there is no medical issue, then there might be a psychological issue. There is no shame in this. If there is a psychological problem it will be subconscious. Therapy may be effective in solving the problem. Seek out a psychologist who knows about such things and see if any help is possible from that.

God Bless,
Bro. Ignatius Mary

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Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum.
Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum
Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum
Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum
Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum