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Help for my wife | Joe | Tuesday, January 26, 2010 |
Question: Brother, Anyway it seems to me she has one last big reservation against the Catholic churchs stance on homosexuals. You see she grew up with her male friend who later discovered he was gay. I think in her heart she knows what this will mean if she became Catholic. I had her read your comments with Johan because of how well you explain things. But she didn't like the analogies. She says well at least he can still eat. They can't even have a taste of what makes them happy and have to resist such a primal instinct. She seems to understand bisexual and experimenting as wrong. But because of her friendship with this man and I guess many past friendships with "people who to their core are so feminine they were always gay. Not even remotely attracted to a woman." she thinks they deserve to be happy and marry and things. She also does not really believe in the Devil or demons and things but is very scared to talk about them. I guess she has more than one reservation with the faith. I might add though that she voluntarily enjoys going to Mass with me every weekend and readily approaches the alter with me and gets blessed with her hands crossed over her chest almost every weekend. Not even Catholics who cannot receive he Host do this and I am very proud of my wife and her gift of humility in this respect. Is there anything else I or you could say about these things that can help? Thank you so much and God Bless. |
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM
Dear Joe: I am sorry that your wife is so confused about all this, but the teaching on homosexuality is not "Catholic", it is the teaching of the Word of God. St. Paul makes it crystal clear that homosexual sex is grave sin.
These are the words of Sacred Scripture, inspired by God. That means it is the Word of God, God's teaching to His people. No Church can contradict God's teachings and claim to be Christian. No person can disagree with God and claim to be Christian. Jesus said, "If you love me, you will keep my commandments" (John 14:15). Commandments means teachings. This passage in Romans is the teaching of Jesus because it is the inspired and infallible Word of God, and Jesus is God. The Catholic Church is only repeating what God has taught. The Church has no other choice. A person with homosexual orientation can be completely happy without sinning. In fact, it is not possible for anyone to be truly happy in sin. One does not have to have sex (homosexual or heterosexual) to be happy. Such a idea is the product of a perverted society that essentially worships sex. There are untold millions of people who live without sex and are perfectly happy -- widows, older people, those with medical problems, single people, priests and religious. Married couples who live without sex due to some medical problem or old age may be totally happy. I take a vow of chastity. I am happy despite that sex is not part of life. It is a immature and perverted generation that asserts that sex is "required" to be happy. For your wife to say, "well at least he can still eat" is rather uncharitable and childish. A homosexual can do anything anyone else can do except sin. None of us are suppose to be sinning. The standards for the homosexual are the same as for all people -- do not sin. The purpose of sex, according to God, is to procreate and to bond the husband and wife for the raising of children. Homosexually cannot do this. Single heterosexuals cannot do this. All sex outside of the marriage of man and woman, married to each other, is sin. As the Catechism states:
This teaching from the Catechism is not some "Catholic invention". This has been the teaching on marriage and homosexuality since the beginning, since A.D. 33. Actually, these teachings go back to ancient times with Moses and before. If I have a friend who is a living together without marriage I can still be friends with him while at the same time disapproving of his sin. In fact, I have been friends with many homosexuals as I use to live in a predominately homosexual community. They all knew my position, the Church's position, but we were still friends. We can never reject Truth for the sake of friendship. If we do that we risk our souls and we show ourselves to be immature and prideful. But, as mentioned, maintaining the Truth does not have to end a friendship. However, if it comes to making a choice between the Truth and a friendship, we must choose Truth as God is Truth. Jesus himself that he did not come to bring peace between people, but division. Then he describes how even families are ripped apart because of Him. Some people just will tolerate Truth.
Here Jesus speaks of family members, but the same thing goes for friends and community. We can love the sinner, but hate the sin. Your wife can love her friend, but disapprove of his sin. As for not believing in the Devil, she is not telling the truth. If there is no Devil, there is no reason to be fearful. Jesus talked more about the devil and hell than he did about heaven. Jesus believed in the devil, how dare we not! The devil sure believes in her! I am happy to hear that your wife is attending Mass with you. Praise God. But, I am sorry to have to say this, but she should not be going forward with arms crossed to receive a blessing. She and everyone have already received a blessing in the Mass. While the Church has decided to investigate the possibility of approving this gesture, the Church currently prohibits this practice and parish priests are under obligation to not allow it. One of the main reasons is that everyone has already been blessed. One who is not communion with the Church, or a Catholic in grave sin, needs to remain seated in the pew. Few will notice the folding arms in the communion line. The real humility is to remain in the pew. I remain in the pew when I am not properly disposed even when wearing monastic robes. Believe me, people notice. But, it is an excerise in humility. As St. Francis de Sales said, "A ounce of humilty is worth more than a thousand pounds of honor." You cannot force her to come to her senses or to accept God's teachings. You can pray for her and keep praying for her. Perhaps with many prayers going up to heaven she will will accept the Holy Spirit promptings and come to accept the Truth. At that time, she can become Catholic if she desires. "You shall know the Truth, and the Truth will set you free" --Jesus (John 8:32) God Bless,
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