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***** weird sexual things WARNING!! Adult Content |
Richard | Wednesday, March 25, 2009 |
Question: 1) i dont know how to say it so i'll just say it. i sometimes do really weird things with my body for eg i'll put a rubberband around my scrotum, (kinda like BDSM but not really) i dont know where these ideas come from but i am wondering if this is a sin or some sort and im not sure how to confesses it. what category does it fall under? and is anal masturbation a sin? does it fall under masturbation it self?? 2) a year ago i was attracted to my cousin and i may have touched her in her sexual areas i desired to have sex with her but that never happend, i am stronger in my faith now so hopefully that wont happen again.thoughts still come into my mind what should i do about this. is this something that i need to confess? 3) also i have this strange attraction to young women, somewhere between ages of fourteen and above. is this wrong? sometimes i have sexual thoughts about them. but i dont act on them. any advice?
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Question Answered by Bro. Ignatius Mary, OLSM
***** Dear Richard: I have combined your two posts into one and have numbered the issues 1) and 2) and 3). I am glad you asked the questions. Given today's disordered society on sexual matters, these questions are important. On issue #1, the catechism defines masturbation as:
Even if we were to strictly define masturbation as sexual stimulation of the genitals, which might preclude anal stimulation, it is still a sin in that it is lust and it is the use of the sexual faculty outside of the mutual self-giving within marriage (the bold portion of the quote above). The rubber band around the scrotum is a form of masturbation as it involves your genitals directly. The answer is that these activities are gravely sinful. You may confess them as sexual self-stimulation. What these activities are, psychologically, is paraphilias. I would advise you contact a counselor experienced with sexual paraphilias to help you overcome these activities. On issue #2: You say you "may" have touched your cousin in sexual areas? Either you did or you didn't. There is no "may" about it. If you touched her sexually with her consent and she was an adult then it is the grave sin of incest. If she was underage then, with or without her alleged consent, it is sexual molestation of a child which is a felony crime and a grave sin. Yes, this must be confessed. You must deal with these attractions or someday you might act out on them and find yourself in prison and a poor girl traumatized for years to come. On issue #3: Lusting after anyone, teenager or adult, is a grave sin and needs to be confessed. Should you act out on these attractions to underage teenagers it is a felony crime and a grave sin. As for dealing with the attraction itself, I would advise seeing a counselor experienced in dealing with inappropriate sexual attractions before something unfortunate happens and you become a sex offender (if you haven't already with your cousin). We will pray for you. God Bless, Footer Notes: This forum is for general questions on the faith. See specific Topic Forums below: Spiritual Warfare, demons, the occult go to our Spiritul Warfare Q&S Forum. Liturgy Questions go to our Liturgy and Liturgical Law Q&A Forum Liturgy of the Hours (Divine Office) Questions go to our Divine Office Q&A Forum Defenfing the Faith Questions go to our Defending the Faith Q&A Forum Church History Questions go to our Church History Q&A Forum
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