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***** Defending Church's stance on intimacy WARNING!! Adult Content |
Rita | Friday, November 19, 2010 |
Question: Dear Brother, As a specific example, my husband, parents, counselors, friends, etc. find the Church's standing about oral sex to be utterly old-fashioned and ridiculous. Even I don't fully understand why the Church has to be so technical and nit-picky, especially if one is already open to life. Why is it wrong to have oral sex if one is pregnant, post-partum, having female problems or, conversely, if the husband wishes to give pleasure to his wife without neccessarily taking his own? Sorry for the graphic question, it's just that I have asked so many people - priests, canon lawyers, NFP couples and Catholic Answers - and nobody really seems to have much of an answer for it. (To be fair, Catholic Amswers and I have played phone tag for the last two weeks over it). My marriage therapist keeps asking me 'Where is it in scripture that within marriage couples must abstain from oral sex?" And as evidence of God permitting oral sex, he gives verses from the Song of Songs - I don't know the exact ones - but it is the one where her hands are dripping with myrr. Help!! My husband finds me a prude and thinks I am brainwashed by the Church and says no one else in our parish remotely practices that teaching. He also says that it is stupid to follow a corrupt Church full of priests who committ the most atrocious scandals. It is putting a definite strain on our marriage. But I do not want to do something that God finds sinful. What can I say to defend myself and the Church? |
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Question Answered by Mr. Benjamin Matthew
***** Dear Rita: Pope Pius XII put it in this way:
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